I really didn’t want to do this, but I need to take a little time to respond to this last comment someone left me.
Sorry, but you are wrong. I remember the first time I saw someone suffering with RA. I remember it as clear as day. It was in Los Angeles 35 years ago. I was taking a report from a lady who had it real bad in both knees. I saw her suffering and it went right to my heart. It was one of the strongest feeling of empathy I had experienced up till that time. It hit me physically and emotionally so hard I was taken aback as though I had been struck. Even thinking of it now I have the same feelings. I am looking for the person who wants to be proactive because you either sit and feeling sorry doing the same things that got you sick in the first place or you take action. I am not talking about going to a doctor and taking medication I am talking about making changes in what you are doing. There is something you are doing or something inside you that brought this on and it has to be undone. Every disease can be cured it is not about the disease it is about the person. 3 kinds of people who cannot be cured are 1 does nothing, 2 likes to be sick, 3 it is their time God is coming. Everyone else can be cured even cracked pots, they just need the information on how.
This is the stuff that you have to put up with if you are sick in the world. This is the EXACT thing that I have been blogging about for a year now. People who like to tell you all the things you are doing wrong. If you would only do this or that. I’ve had just about all I can stand of it.
This man has taken it upon himself to judge me and my situation. He has made quite a few false assumptions.
Assumption 1: Im not proactive about my disease. I sit and feel sorry for myself.
Assumption 2: I do this while doing the things that got MYSELF sick in the first place.
Assumption 3: There is “something” inside me that I’m not doing right. It’s MY FAULT
Assumption 4: I am one of the following types of people. A)I am doing nothing about my situation B) I actaully ENJOY being sick C) It’s just the way things are because God is coming to get me
Assumption 5: He has magic information on how easily I can be cured.
If I only cared enough, right? So he believes there are magic alternative herbs that with fix everything. Let me guess…. he makes a living selling them, right? He has to make money off it.
He claims he has sympathy for R.A. sufferers. But I think he doesn’t know the meaning of the word.
I am so tired of people like this.
R.A. is a horrifically nasty, brutal, painful disease. But what is MORE hurtful, and MORE painful, and MORE brutal is people like him judging me and people like me. He doesn’t know me. He doesn’t know anything I’ve been through. And he has no right to boil my entire life and disease down to such a silly silly conclusion.
Sometimes things just happen. Sometimes people get diseases. It isn’t because they are bad people. It isn’t because they wanted it. I feel( not that it actually matters apparently) that bad things sometimes just happen. I personally feel that to think otherwise is a bit self indulgent. And a bit arrogant.
I don’t need to justify myself here.
But for God sake, if you are reading this, try not to do this to anyone else. Trust me, it isn’t helpful.
It’s hurtful and cruel. And you might be sincere and concerned. But it’s not coming off that way. It was like taking a punch to the gut. That there are actually people out there that can think and say such a thing to another human being.
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